Do you ever feel insecure about doing something?
And I feel a bit silly about admitting this, because from the outside, I think people wouldn't think I'd feel insecure.
I recently sent out my newsletter with dates available for portraits. It took me several weeks to finally push send. Well as you know, I don't do a lot of portraits, and my website is geared primarily towards my nature photography. Interacting with strangers doesn't always come easy for me. I mean, what do I say? And I feel a bit awkward. Will I sound stupid? Will I talk too much or too little? I eventually get over it and I'm fine, but that initial anxiety kinda sucks.
I'd like to think we all feel this way in certain situations. And maybe this is how I understand the awkwardness and insecurity of how people feel in front of the camera. I mean, it does feel weird being in front of the camera—being the sole focus of someone. (Seriously, how often does that happen anymore in today's distracted, multi-tasking society?)
The one mental trick that has helped is the "fake it 'till you make it" mantra. Of course I don't mean fake as in insincere or lying. It's more about a mental belief in yourself, kind of like Stewart Smalley's self affirmations of "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darnit, people like me."
Corny, right? I figure whatever works.
For me, sometimes just acknowledging out loud how awkward it is to meet someone for the first time makes that initial first meeting less awkward. The elephant in the room sort of thing. Because we're both probably feeling a bit uncomfortable.
Of course a friendly smile always helps, too. My secret weapon. (Although not so secret anymore. :) )
~Barb Kellogg, photographer, tea drinker, and dark chocolate lover
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